Steamy SEX in the Bible

(Today’s post by Wayne Bunting)

Song of Solomon 3:6-5:l

wedding nightToday we venture into The Song of Solomon. Also called the Song of Songs, the meaning of this book has been debated for quite some time as far as what exactly the author is talking about. The most obvious assertion of this book is that it is talking about love, marriage, and sex. But many assert that all of these are used as a metaphor to describe the loving relationship that God has with His people, put into the context of a marriage. Traditionally, Rabbis would not allow boys who were being taught the Bible (Old Testament) to read The Song of Solomon because of the sometimes intense nature of its revealing of marital intimacy between a husband and wife. This should tell us that this book is pretty heavy, and is not to be taken lightly. This book is also one that is oftentimes skipped over by preachers and teachers because it is many times difficult to discern a contemporary application from.

If you have children reading this now and you feel that they are not ready to read about sex then now is the time for earmuffs, because this book is about the intimacy in a loving relationship between a man and a woman which culminates in marriage, and ultimately sex.

Song of Solomon is a book that shows that the Lord is concerned with every detail of our lives, especially our love lives. One thing that is interesting about the Song of Solomon is that one of the dominant voices in this book is that of a female. In fact, this book takes the perspective of three main voices: a man, a woman, and their friends. The man and the woman are obviously lovers and are crazy about each other. Notice that in 4:9 Solomon refers to his bride as his “sister.” This may seem strange at first, but during this time when a man called a female lover sister he was affirming the closeness of their relationship. It was to say that their bond and relationship was never ending, like how a brother and sister never cease to be brother and sister. This permanence shows the commitment that they shared for one another. Verses 4:16-5:1 are significant in this section. Up until this point the book details the courting relationship of this man and woman that love each other. But now they marry and consummate their love. They do what they have wanted to do all along: they express their love through the physical act of sex.

Song of Solomon flies in the face of the popular notion that God is a prude that wants his followers to be painfully abstinent. This is a very sexual book. It promotes sex in a greater way than a lot of popular culture does. But it does it in its proper context, marriage. I find it interesting that the man and woman in this book both describe the enjoyment of each other physically (or at least the possibility of it) in terms of partaking in the enjoyment of fruit. At times, such as in 2:3-7, the description and possible enjoyment of a physical expression of their love escalates, and then is abruptly stopped by the phrase “I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases,” a phrase that repeats throughout this book. This is a very obvious display of physical affection and sexual desire between this couple. It escalates into what could be a sexual encounter between these two unmarried people, until this voice of reason stops it.

I like that this book shows the tension and desire for sexual expression in a courting (or what we might call dating) relationship, because it is a real and valid tension that almost everyone that is crazy about someone of the opposite sex feels. This is a normal thing to go through. It would be weird if you were not physically attracted to the one you were seriously dating and didn’t want to act on that attraction. God gave us these desires for a purpose and a reason, and much of that is spelled out in this book. Most importantly these desires find their proper culmination within the confines of marriage. Do we as the church seek to guide younger people in courting relationships through these desires and this process? I think it is very important that we should, which includes the importance and significance of abstinence in an unmarried relationship.

The idea, as is so poignantly woven throughout this book, is that within a relationship between a man and a woman the act of sex should be done in its right time. That means that the act of sex cannot have its true, proper, and ultimate fulfillment until it is realized within the ultimate context of human love: marriage. If ever there was a book that maintained the absolute importance of withholding sex until marriage, and also the importance of diving headfirst into the enjoyment of sex within this context, it is the Song of Solomon.

So if we can learn anything at all from the Song of Solomon its that God has made sex as a very good thing. He has given us the ability to cultivate relationships with the opposite sex in the form of marital bonds in which we can enjoy this wonderful gift. God made all of creation and called it good, including sex. So what I would like to see in the church is for the proper view of sex to be embraced and taught. God saw it fit to be a major theme in one of the books of the Bible so why should we shy away from it? The church should, in the right way, teach the proper view of sex in marriage, not shun away from it. We should not seek to run away from and do away with things that the world has perverted that God has created as good. God has given His church a guide to marital relationships and the importance of the purity therein. And the point of that purity is so that we can enjoy the wonderful and good things that God has created for us in the best and right way, namely within the structure of love and marriage.

Also, I was thinking the other day about our ability to have sex and create life. When a child is conceived the father and mother of that child has in that moment set in motion a soul that has an eternal purpose, and an eternal trajectory. As of that moment that child will live eternally. It really makes you realize the importance of couples (especially Christians) waiting until they are married to have sex. They have the ability to create a life that will either live eternally in Heaven or Hell, and the way that we raise our children largely influences that. We set in motion eternal purpose and significance through the act of marriage. Our ability to create and shape life is one of great power and great responsibility. Sex is a gift, a very wonderful one. We should honor it in the church, and teach its proper use and understanding. We should assert the proper way in which relationships should develop and embrace this gift within the wonderfulness of marriage. Through this the church could see families rise up and demonstrate to the world the proper view of love and sex. And as some assert is the ultimate meaning to the Song of Solomon, we might show the world the love that Christ has in his redemption of the church through the metaphor of marriage.

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