Sunday Sermon // How to BE ’til death do us part’

How To BE? // How to BE 'til death do us part'

[ECC Lead Pastor, Scott Moore, Covington Campus]

Intimacy is the result of intentionality.

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:21-25 NLT)

Hebrew word for “one” is one. There were two individuals who became ONE. Not one plus one. Just ONE! By God's design they became inseparable. Most problems in marriages stem from someone's (or both) selfishness. They forget about being one together and think and act individually again.

Intimacy is the result of intentionality.


  • Intentional priority.

You are here (or reading this) because you believe that God can still do something in your relationships. So make this a priority.

You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. (Malachi 2:14 NLT)

Malachi was speaking to the priests. They were the ones discarding their older wives and marrying younger women.

We are all called 'the royal priesthood.' This priority of marriage is for ALL of those who are married and call themselves believers.

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. (Hebrews 13:4 NLT)

One-ness must be the PRIORITY of all marriages.

Ideas:

  • Date night / date day
  • Overnight trip
  • Notes
  • Texts / emails

We MUST be intentional about these things or the distractions and busy-ness of the world will derail us.


  • Intentional pursuit.

Young man: If you don’t know, O most beautiful woman, follow the trail of my flock, and graze your young goats by the shepherds’ tents. You are as exciting, my darling, as a mare among Pharaoh’s stallions. How lovely are your cheeks; your earrings set them afire! How lovely is your neck, enhanced by a string of jewels. We will make for you earrings of gold and beads of silver. (Song of Songs 1:8-11 NLT)

Young woman: The king is lying on his couch, enchanted by the fragrance of my perfume. My lover is like a sachet of myrrh lying between my breasts. He is like a bouquet of sweet henna blossoms from the vineyards of En-gedi. (Song of Songs 1:12-14 NLT)

Young man: How beautiful you are, my darling, how beautiful! Your eyes are like doves. (Song of Songs 1:15 NLT)

Young woman: You are so handsome, my love, pleasing beyond words! The soft grass is our bed; fragrant cedar branches are the beams of our house, and pleasant smelling firs are the rafters. (Song of Songs 1:16-17 NLT)


  • Intentional love and respect.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33 NLT)

  • Greatest need for men is respect.
  • Greatest need for women is to be pursued.

Intimacy is the result of intentionality.


Next Steps:

  1. Honestly evaluate your marriage.
  2. Commit to making your marriage better.
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