WEiRD: Because Normal Isn't Working // WEiRD Families
[ECC Lead Pastor, Scott Moore, Covington Campus]
If you want what normal people have, do what normal people do. If you want what few people have, do what few people do.
What do normal families look like?
- Normal families use each other.
- Normal people abuse each other.
- Normal families resent each other.
So think clearly and exercise self-control. Look forward to the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world. So you must live as God’s obedient children. Don’t slip back into your old ways of living to satisfy your own desires. You didn’t know any better then. But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy. For the Scriptures say, “You must be holy because I am holy.” (1 Peter 1:13-16 NLT)
Let's not get caught up in behavior modification or a list of things to DO differently. That can become controlling from the external, not leading from the internal.
The difference in leading and controlling your family is love and transparency. Without unconditional love and transparency there will be fear and insecurity. So, before we begin talking about some things we can do..we need to set one ground rule:
WEiRD families seperate themselves from the world by showing unconditional love and lead with transparency. We must first accept the fact that God loves US unconditionally. When we accept that fact, then we can love and lead our families.
WEiRD Families have..
1. WEiRD Relationships
Weird relationships are submissive.
And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Ephesians 5:21 NLT)
Weird relationships are considerate.
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets. (Matthew 7:12 NLT)
2. WEiRD Rules
Respect your parents.
“Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you. (Exodus 20:12 NLT)
[The most important relationship in the home is the marriage relationship. More important than parent-to-child relationship is the husband-to-wife relationship.]
Protect your purity.
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NLT)
Check out this blog post about Pornography: the New Narcotic.
Be with your kids. Unobserved kids with technology will fall into the temptation of sexual sins. Create some rules that work for your family. No TVs in bedrooms? Leave phones, laptops, tablets in parents room at bedtime? Internet porn filters? Find SOMETHING that works for your family.
3. WEiRD Routines : family worship.
“Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. (Deuteronomy 6:4-7 NLT)
This doesn't have to look the same for every family. You might not be able to sit in a circle and sing but you can talk. Have conversations about what your kids are learning in HighPoint, MidPoint, E-town, and Adventureland. You can read Scripture together. Learn together. And pray. It doesn't have to be extravagant..just honest. You will be modeling a behavior that will help them grow forever.
We need WEiRD families to change the world!