2 Samuel 16:15-17:29
Television has allowed us to join different families as a source of entertainment. I grew up watching the Huxtable’s, the Keaton’s, the Seaver’s, the Tanner’s (with Joey and Uncle Jesse), and so many others. Some family units worked and other’s ended disastrously. Interestingly enough, through the magic of TV, all issues could usually be solved in 30 minutes or less. Wouldn’t it be great if this were true in life? Hey, all of us parents know, there is no “magic of life.” Raising a family in today’s environment is extremely difficult, but the responsibility still falls on us to bring resolution to the situation. We don't have great script writers, handlers, and producers to get us through life’s problems, but we do have the power of God behind us. Did the Keaton’s have, “Honor your Father and Mother that your days may be long on the earth?” (Ex 20:12) Did the Huxtable’s have, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it?” (Prov 22:6) The Bible has a lot to say on parenting, but it starts with the parents.
What is going through David’s mind when he gets report of what his son is doing and saying about him? There are some scholars who think Ahithophel is the grandfather of Bathsheba – David’s wife and Israel’s Queen Mother. Interestingly, David counters Absalom’s attack by sending in Hushai as a spy who gained the trust of Absalom. Hushai convinces Absalom to go against the first advisor to Absalom. What ends up a huge sordid mess of a family. Pretty much you can look at David’s family life and know what NOT to do. Could this be what led Solomon to write so much advice for parents to follow. Look, David made his choices and ended up with a huge problem – one that wanted to kill him, literally. Isn’t it cool, knowing that God allowed such a sage and gifted writer who recorded so many pearls for us parents to come from a salacious beginning? Sin will destroy a family faster than a twister in a trailer park, but that doesn’t have to be the end of it.
David’s life was characterized by sin and monumental military victories. David, I am sure, gave his kids pretty much everything they needed to be successful in life – a great house, servants, wealth, opportunity, etc. That being said, what he didn’t give them ended up affecting the moral fiber of his family. Even Solomon – the wisest man on earth – fell into the same temptations as his father when it came to woman. Fathers, you have what none of these examples have – a complete set of Scriptures, the Holy Spirit, and direct access to the throne room of God Almighty…what are you doing with the tools you’ve been given? Maybe you’ve already messed up and hope there is a “Reset” button – I’ve got news for you, changing direction doesn’t erase the effects of where you steered; but the change in direction will prevent you from leading down the wrong path.
I wish I could tell you that all of your problems can be solved in 30 minutes of TV magic – but life is going to pull at your family – don’t change the channel! Instead, stand and fight for the treasure God has entrusted you with. David never fought for his family and in this passage we see him fighting his family. Take this lesson from history, and don’t repeat it. It is up to you to choose like Joshua who you will serve – say like he did, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”