Family : Beyond Curb Appeal // The Power of Three
[Student Pastor, Kurt Petersheim, ECC Covington Campus]
“To love does not simply mean to look at one another but to look together in the same direction.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Flying in a “V” formation allows them to fly 70% further than they could alone. They take turns flying in the first position to share the burden. And they honk at each other for encouragement.
If you see one goose on the ground. You'll always see two other. They travel in threes. They support each other.
What geese understand, sometimes better than us, is that we need to live in community.
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT)
- The Power of One is foolish.
- The Power of Two is smart.
- The Power of Three is brilliant.
The Interwoven Couple [you, spouse/friend/other, and God]
A couple who invites the Lord into their relationship through prayer.
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. (James 5:16 NLT)
If there is no God at the center of the relationship, then you will be living in a house that has only curb appeal with nothing alive n the inside.
Prayer keeps God the primary focus of our relationships.
Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. (2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT)
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 NLT)
So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up. (Romans 14:19 NLT)
Fight for Intimacy
- With God, individually.
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:37-39 NLT)
Insight: When you have intimacy with God, you begin looking like His son, Jesus. The enemy will fight his hardest to distract you from this cause. He will try to entertain you to death.
- With your spouse relationally and emotionally.
Matthew 19:6, Ephesians 5:28-29, Malachi 2:15
Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” (Matthew 19:6 NLT)
Insight: The definition of love is two combining to be one.
We all long for intimacy from someone. But we don't want to put all the time, energy, and effort into that is needed to cultivate a healthy intimate relationship.
Like a garden, intimacy takes time and effort.
Practice: Married Life Pathway, Counseling, Make time for each other..whatever you do, FIGHT for it!
- With God as a couple, spiritually, through prayer.
Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. (Philippians 2:1, 2 NLT)
Insight: God desires unity in all our relationships.
S – STOP (make time for God & each other..make it priority)
A – ASK
L – LISTEN
T – TALK (to each other & to God)