Tension: The Gap Between Expectation And Reality

…Do you ever feel that weird tension in the room that you can’t quite put your finger on?

…Have you argued with your spouse (or a close friend) about something they did, or didn’t do, that “let you down?”

…Do you get frustrated when people don’t respond like you think they should?

Mike Bonem & Roger Patterson explain it this way in Leading From The Second Chair, “The gap between expectation and reality is filled with frustration.”

You could call that frustration..tension.

There is a tension created when we perceive something one way but the reality is quite different.

There are conversations that I find myself in where I can’t quite explain it, but I simply feel frustrated. Many times that tension has more to do with “me” than “them.” I have a natural and preconceived notion of how someone should respond to certain stimuli, and when they surprise me, or simply respond differently than I anticipate..there is tension.

And I know you’ve experienced this same feeling, too.

But is there a way to harness this tension and make it useful, much like we take a river’s current and create electricity?

Awareness is key..and that awareness should then lead to action which will create synergy..Peter Senge explains it well in The Fifth Discipline:

We are acutely aware of the gaps between our vision and reality…these gaps can make a vision seem unrealistic or fanciful. They can discourage us or make us feel hopeless. But the gap between vision and current reality is also a source of energy. If there was no gap, there would be no need for any action to move toward the vision. Indeed the gap is THE source of creative energy. We call this gap creative tension.

So..tension is good.

Tension is normal.

Are you frustrated by situations where tension is apparent?

Could you harness that tension to create something useful?

The Tension is Good : Aaron Keyes from Catalyst on Vimeo.

(for more tension-talk, sign up today for the Catalyst Conference in Atlanta October 6-8, 2010)

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  • Oy Vey!!! Another “Leadership Conference?” 😉

    Lot’s of “lifting up” of famous “Names,” famous “Speakers,”

    famous “Leaders,” and young wannabee “Famous Leaders.”

    **And NOT one mention of Jesus.** 🙁 Please forgive us Lord.

    From the Catalyst web site…

    “A powerful convergence of next generation leaders?”

    “Loaded with the high-octane energy of thousands of like-minded leaders?”

    “Pure leadership adrenaline?”

    “The largest gathering of young leaders in the country?”

    “Catalyst is a movement founded in the hearts of young leaders?”

    Maybe I’m a little cranky today, BUT, this sounds ugly familiar.

    This sounds like a bunch of “worldly, over the top, hype.” Mercy Lord…

    Love not the world…

    For all that is in the world, **the lust of the flesh,** and **the lust of the eyes,**

    and **the pride of life,** is not of the Father, but is of the world.

    1John 2:15-16

    Seems Jesus has a different take on “leadership” for the body of Christ.

    Didn’t Jesus, in Mat 23:10 KJV, tell His disciples “NOT” to call themselves

    “master / leaders” for you have “ONE” “master / leader” the Christ?

    Didn’t Jesus say?…

    I receive NOT honour from men…

    …How can ye believe, which **receive honour one of another,**

    and seek not the honour that cometh from God only?

    John 5:41-44

    He that **speaketh of himself** seeketh his own glory…

    John 7:18

    And I seek NOT mine own glory…

    John 8:50

    Jesus answered, **If I honour myself, my honour is nothing:**

    it is my Father that honoureth me; of whom ye say, that he is your God:

    John 8:54

    Most people don’t start out wanting to “steal the glory” that belongs to Jesus.

    They just don’t refuse the glory, when it comes. 😉

    Seems “Catalyst” is giving glory and honor to man, and man is accepting it. Yes?

    Where is the honor, and glory, for Jesus?

    Jesus “must” increase. I “must” decrease.

    “Leaders?” Maybe Jesus has a better way? Just NOT man’s way?

    If it lifts up Jesus, rejoice,

    it’s probably “Truth.”

    If it lifts up man, beware,

    it’s probably “deception.”

    Jesus… Our Lord and Our God…

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